As domestic abuse becomes more common in Utah we wonder how it all began. There are a number of behaviors that may indicate you are facing a potential batterer. However, sometimes things are not that obvious and may unexpectedly get out of hand. It’s important you don’t deal with domestic violence on your own and seek legal representation from a Salt Lake City domestic violence attorney. With sound legal advice you will be able to recover all your losses and have someone carry you during this painful time in your life.
Some of the most common attributes a potential batterer will exhibit include:
Jealousy – The abuser can sometimes equate jealousy with love and accuse the victim of flirting, and become jealous when he or she talks or spends time with others. The abuser may also call the victim several times a day asking about his or her whereabouts, check the car mileage, refuse letting the victim work, and even ask friends to spy on the victim.
Perhaps the abuser tells the victim the controlling behavior it’s just concern for the victim making the victim think he or she is not capable of making sound decisions. This behavior can definitely get worst and the abuser may even control the victim’s finances and places he or she visits.
The abuser may try to isolate the victim from any outside support or resources. The friends and family of the abuser are accused of being troublemakers and not wanting the best for the victim. Access to a vehicle, telephone or the internet may also be limited. This helps the abuser place the victim in a defenseless position where the victim is often blamed for everything happening to the abuser. Feelings are often used to manipulate the victim and keep him or her in this emotional incarceration
Verbal and physical abuse
The abuser may say some very cruel things to the victim putting down his or her accomplishments, cursing or degrading the victim. There may be threats of violence and justifying this aggressive behavior.
When someone you know is being abused
Perhaps someone you know is involved in an abusive relationship. Some signs to watch out for include:
- Injuries and bruises that may have been caused by being thrown down, punching or choking. There may also be marks on the neck and sprained wrists.
- Trying to hide bruises is very common for victims of domestic violence. They often use makeup or clothing but it’s obvious that the victim is in both emotional and physical pain. Victims generally make excuses such as being clumsy, being in the accident or come up with a hard-to-believe story.
- Isolation from friends and family is one of the most typical signs of domestic abuse. The victim often has no money, a credit card, a car, or phone to contact his or her relatives.
If you or a loved one has become a victim of domestic violence perhaps it’s time you take immediate action and get an order of protection. Contact a Salt Lake City domestic violence attorney who can evaluate your situation and take legal action to protect you.